So I was thinking about one of my favorite love story growing up. Freshmen year of High School my English class had to read Shakespeare’s Romeo and Juliet. As we read about the story of a young man and young woman and their tragic love story it amazed me. For those who don’t know the main characters named Romeo and Juliet were of noble blood and their families were enemies. However, they meet and fall in love and they both vowed to love one another always. Long story short, Romeo murders a member of Juliet’s family and has to run away. Juliet fakes her death by drinking poison so Romeo would come to her rescue and save her from being betrothed to someone else. Romeo shows up and kills himself. She awakens to Romeo’s dead body killing herself leaving the families in mourning of their beloved children.
Such a beautiful story. When you think about it, how many of us long for a love and are willing to do anything for it? We as young ladies dream of the beautiful weddings, true love, and happy endings. Yet we don’t do enough research on the men we date, and fall for the first attractive man who calls us beautiful. We give ourselves to these men: mind, heart, body, and soul with no real commitment. After a few quick dates, 3 minutes of “love making”, and possibly an I love you we are left brokenhearted, lonely, and less of the woman we were when we got into that “relationship”. We then get trapped in this cycle hoping to one day be enough for these men when we can’t even be enough to ourselves. We have all of these expectations for our one day husbands that we overlook what the bible shows us is love and we settle for anything we can get! How tragic that we lose ourselves in these fantasies we make up because we don’t want to face the reality of our situations. But then we have the nerve to bring babies into the world causing further damage.
1 Corinthians 13: 4-8
4 Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant 5 or rude. It does not insist on its own way, it is not irritable or resentful; 6 it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices at truth. 7 Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. 8 Love never ends.
That scripture tells us what love is and is not. When I look at this scripture I can honestly say less than 1% of the relationships I got in resembles this. But because I searched for a love like Romeo and Juliet, (instead of waiting on the man God called for me) I kept allowing myself to get caught up in relationships and fantasies when all the other parties wanted was a good time and to go on about their business. I had no value in myself, yet the Lord saw me as priceless. True love is sacrifice, it is comforting, it is being able to say I am sorry and mean it. Love is not like Romeo and Juliet because it wouldn’t be hidden from our family and friends because we are afraid they aren’t going to approve. It would be having eyes only for each other and waiting until the “I do” to be physically intimate because it knows the power of being joined together sexually. We don’t realize that we give these men EVERYTHING to be left empty. God did not intend for it to be that way. We were created to be a partner helpmate not a booty call or baby mama.
Oh, and for the young ladies who believe love can be found in material things: WRONG. I stayed in a relationship that had no value but I had money, cars, clothes, jewelry, dates, and trips. But it came at a cost. I was physically, mentally, and emotionally abused by someone I thought was going to be my husband. I accepted it because that’s what I thought I deserved. I was too embarrassed and to far in the relationship to leave because I had everything materially but nothing spiritually. I kept convincing myself I could change him and because I loved him the Lord would change him because He values marriage. The joke was on me. I only got out completely after I had contemplated taking my own life; realizing the relationship was going to kill me if I didn’t leave.
That tragic love ended with my daughter. Whom God blessed me with, to this day I say she saved my life. I then asked God why wasn’t I good enough, or beautiful, or smart enough to have what Romeo and Juliet had. Why couldn’t these men love me the way I loved them? He then showed me that the world isn’t capable of loving the way He loves. Which is why He had to teach us through His only begotten Son. His name is Jesus and He loved me enough to die for my imperfections. His love story shows us that love is giving and it is pure. He didn’t have to die, but He did it because He loved me. He calls me His bride and blesses me with gifts, compliments, and joy. The only thing he requires is that I give to Him what I gave to all of the other men I thought I loved.( NOT) He just wants your heart, and in return He will give you His. When you can finally understand your true value in Him; He will bless you with your husband.
I say all of this to tell you that your Romeo is waiting on you Juliet. He just needs you to give Him your heart so He can love you to life and prepare you to be a wife. He accepts you just as you are. I have found that the real love stories are found in the Bible in the books like Song of Solomon and the Cross. The best part is that His love is ETERNAL!!!! He’s calling you beloved, are you willing to be loved the right way?